ESSENCE: Love is help and exchange.
VERY BEAUTIFUL AND LIVING IN LOVE IS VERY VERY VERY NICE.
As a first step, it is appropriate to agree together on what LOVE is for us.
First (before you read on) write what the word LOVE means to you) and ask others what it means to them. It is likely that each of you will have a different definition.
Many people confuse the terms LOVE and feeling for someone (affectivity).
Let's now look at a definition that can and should be applied to everyone.
THE EXCHANGE HAS 2 DIMENSIONS:
- SOMETHING FOR SOMETHING
- READY TO EXCHANGE THE POSITIONS = BEING READY TO ACCEPT WHAT I OFFER (MEANS IN BOTH DIRECTIONS, I ACCEPT TO PAY THE PRICE I PROPOSE) = DO NOT DO TO ANOTHER WHAT WE DO NOT WISH OTHERS TO DO TO YOU.
AND HERE IT IS NECESSARY TO UNDERSTAND AND ACCEPT THAT LOVE IS NOT JUST HELPING. IT MAY BE ABOUT BUYING LOVE (WHAT IS IMPOSSIBLE, WE CAN NOT BUY LOVE) = REASON I HELP OTHERS IS THAT THOSE I HELP WILL LOVE ME, OR THE EFFORTS OF RETAINING / COMMITTING ANOTHER.
Examples that explain the above definition of Love.
Let's realize that when we go to the store and take something without exchange (without payment), we are thieves.
Questions to think:
- And who thinks that it's appropriate to turn another into a thief? This is what happens if we do not require the exchange.
- And who thinks it's appropriate to be a thief?
I hope all healthy people answer NO to both questions. Therefore, let's not make others thieves by not requiring exchange.
Help each other within the household. If one is working hard, earns and also takes care of the whole household and children, then this is not Love, but that one uses the services of the other without exchange and is not willing to exchange these positions. We highly recommend creating a common and appropriate agreement about what, who will do what, and when.
The LAW shows definition of Love with our basic necessary functions.
- We can not only expire (give, we would die) or inspire (take, we would explode) we must breathe out and then we can breathe in
- Our heart can not only pump (take) in the blood but it is necessary to send (give) the blood to the entire body.
- To walk left and right leg
- Wash the hands
- Write down others examples
To understand what this means, we strongly encourage you to discuss different situations together and see if my or others' actions pass the LOVE filter. If they pass through the filter of Love, look at what it means for you, and if they don't pass, look for why that is. And you will see how many situations can be easily solved when we respect the filter of LOVE in our life.
Children play and suddenly one picks up the other toy he is playing with, without asking and getting consent = inappropriate. And how this can be explained to the children, give him the experience in peace: take the toy he plays with and ask him if he is comfortable = explain to him not to do to the other what he does not wish the other to do to him.
THE LOVE is composed of several energies like: human love + forgiveness (does not mean to forgot) + goodwill. And it is very beautiful to discover all the different energies that are a part of the LOVE.
LET'S USE A LOVE FILTER FOR OUR ACTIONS. WE NEVER SHOULD DO, WHAT DOES NOT PASS THROUGH THE FILTER.